Many neighbor disputes end up in court because of poor communication. If something dangero
us or 1) illegal happens, the cops are the obvious solution. But if problems that arise ar
e grayer, communication is the best way to save money and trouble. Here are some tips to b
e a good neighbor and deal with a bad one:Get to know each other.
Being a good neighbor doesn't mean 2) taking family vacations together.
Just knowing them well enough to say hi, or maybe borrowing a cup
of sugar or loaning a gardening tool, can build trust and understa
nding. Issues are much more likely to occur among strangers than even casual 3) acquaintan
ces.Head off problems before they're problems.
If you are 4) throwing a party at your plac
e, go to all neighbors who might be affected and offer them two things: a 5) verbal invita
tion to the party and a card with your phone number. If they are not 6) tolerant of the no
ise or there are other problems, your neighbors can call you instead of asking the police
to 7) intervene.
Tell your neighbors what's bothering you – don't assume they know what the
problem is. Be open and direct, not passive-aggressive. Ask for their opinions, and where
ver possible, propose a solution that 8) splits the difference and demonstrates a willingn
ess to compromise.
Stay cool and positive, even if your neighbors are not.Check with other
neighbors. See if anybody else on the block is having similar issues – they may be willin
g to help 9) resolve it. If one of the neighbors is close to the troublemaker, have them c
ome with you when you 10) talk it out.Bottom line?
As with any relationship, being a good
neighbor – or dealing with a bad one – is all about communication.